Reflections...

It is a good thing I am not reliant on 'sugar' to pay my way because I would definitely be in dire straits after five months of hunting. It has been an up and down five months to brutally honest, in all areas not just the hunt.

I have taken the time to become a God-mother. I have taken the time to grieve the loss of someone close to me. I think what has hit me the hardest recently is the lack of someone to share these things with. Not someone to hold my hand every day. Lord knows I am too independent for that! But someone whom I can share these with...

At one point, recently, I thought I was on my way to discovering that 'connection' type piece. And while we had yet to have a face-to-face meet yet, he had the type of voice that made my tummy do flip-flops. But... the connection was too new, to withstand my hibernation during my grief. Such is life; or in this case, death.

I was very fortunate with my last arrangement in that all of the 'I' 's were dotted and “T” 's were crossed. I created a business which, thankfully, has kept me busy over the past months. Not to mention we had, what I've been told recently, was called an 'exit plan.' Hmmm, and I thought it was just part of the arrangement... I understand this is something that many women do not think ahead for. Funny thing is, I didn't either... This was all Mr. J........ 's doing. I am eternally grateful as I did not have to jump at the first offer. I can choose to be picky if I want. I wonder if that makes me jaded?

I hope not.

I just want to find a worthwhile mental connection with someone and share some chemistry. I don't want someone who is just going to want... well you know, an hour of my time, every few days. Don't get me wrong, it is part and parcel, but in an arrangement it is only one piece. Besides, <laugh> with a mental connection AND chemistry it will be sooooo much more then an hour.

Maybe entering the 'sugar' world was not the right fit for me. After all, I have much more to offer then just 'sugar' for sugar. Maybe it is the quality of gentlemen who are being attracted to the SA site due to the recent publicity. Perhaps it is even more fundamental then that...

I was reading the sugar blogs; and reflecting on conversations I have had with gentlemen in recent months. While US men seem to be ripe for the sugar baby revolution they appear to be lacking in basic historical knowledge as they do not appear to understand or appreciate the benefits of the courtesan; a woman skilled in the ars amatoria. Further, I am almost to the point where it doesn't appear worth explaining the concept or even changing the explanation to include 'European-style mistress' helps. (thanks for the phrase. Dave M. , I almost forgot it existed <laugh>) . The lack of knowledge in the average US male is such a shame too. Because if one looks to history and the rise and decline of my historical sister and then compares it to the current status of the world; they would find that it could be just about time for the re-emergence of the courtesan in public society. But that is a topic for another day.

Perhaps my melancholy is due to the realization that, although it has been nice to have had my feet planted firmly on US soil lately, I will probably need to expand my search radius to countries outside of the States to find what I am looking for.

Then again, perhaps tonight's melancholy is more due to the holidays this week and upcoming. I am returning to my beloved New York and while I am normally so ecstatically delighted to be going home for the holiday season (I love NY at Christmas), I am disappointed that I, as of yet, have no one to skip the streets and see the shows with. Perhaps, I will go sit on Santa's lap and ask him for my deepest wishes this year...

Today's Journey: My Thoughts and Mr. A.........

I received an email this week from a gentlemen (I will call him Mr. A. ... ) with whom I had been conversing recently. He is educated enough to know, understand, and appreciate the benefits a Courtesan would add to his life and realize that there is a distinct difference between a Courtesan and a high-end escort. He is in the market for an arrangement. Professional. Successful, of a decent height weight, nice eyes etcetera. By all standards he is quite a good catch! And as I find myself without a current protector and have been, how shall we say, at loose ends...

Sounds simple. Right? Wrong. Everyone comes to the table with different sets of expectations and beliefs of what a mutually beneficial arrangement / relationship is, and isn't. This week, this gentleman, was no different, except for it has had an interesting twist.

Mr. A. ... has never before had an arrangement, although, due to his busy career and international travel, he likes and appreciates the concept. He has an "open" or negotiable budget for the provision of such an arrangment and states that he more then has the ability to afford what he ultimately wants.

In the latest communique I received from him he indicated that an arrangement with him meant 3 to 4 dates per month of stress free fun times. He stresses that he is not just looking for intimacy at those dates but wants someone with whom he can share a good connection and someone who wants to enjoy the finer things of city life with him.

OHHH MY! This could be just what I am looking for. A real man who is looking for a real mutually beneficial arrangement. I start to get incredibly excited. This looks promising...

He stresses again the need for a good connection in the type of arrangement he will be willing to pursue. Having recently cum from an exquisite long term arrangement, and knowing exactly the style I am seeking I have to say I got extremely wet at the prospect of finding it after only 150+ emails!

And then I read further...
He goes on to say that the sexual aspect of the arrangement is important. Well that goes without saying. Seriously lets not be frigid here. How many relationships survive when there are intimacy issues? But then, he states he will reward generously... Hmmmm? I am a Courtesan NOT a prostitute.
Next he re-stresses the need for chemistry and connection between himself and the other party of an arrangement.

Is it me, or is he confused being new at this. I start to question and second guess my initial instincts of him as a potential suitor. But no, I read a little further. It appears he is just trying to ensure that the woman he becomes involved with is not just in this for the financial component but shares a chemistry with him. In a true, long term mutually beneficial arrangement between a man and his Courtesan, this is not an unreasonable aspiration but not highly likely at the initial stage. These things grow over time, just like any "normal" relationship.

The twist here today is he wishes to know my thoughts on the topic of shared chemistry, a good connection with a woman who does not place an importance on the financial aspect of a mutually beneficial arrangement...

Which brings me to the point of today's musing's. My thoughts

As I sat down to reply I decided it would be a straightforward email. I wrote, erased, re-wrote, erased and then stopped to think. The wording and structure of the communique was so back and forth between a man truly looking for a long term mutually beneficial arrangement and a man who was looking for a long term ultra-casual hook-up, in which he paid by encounter, my earlier confusion returned.

I opened up his profile. Re-read it. Did I miss anything? No. Exactly as I remembered it.

I opened up the first message he sent me. Read it. Re-read it. Again, exactly as I remembered.

I did the same with my first response. His response. And then the next emails exchanged.

No. my take on Mr. A. ... was correct. This isn't the all too common case where a potential benefactor said the pretty without any intention of following through; where he thought he wanted a Courtesan but in reality wanted a high-class escort. Mr. A. ....... was a man who wanted and would appreciate the skills of a Courtesan. The skills I have to offer the right man.

So how to explain to him MY thoughts on the topic(s) he raised in this last message. Because although I don't believe he meant to, he raised the topic of my, potential, financial security and made it contingent upon a level of feeling (connection, chemistry) prior to any time spent together.

How do I convey my feelings on being equated to a common prostitute or the insult I took at that. How to remind him of the distinct differences between an escort and the skills of a Courtesan.

Additionally, as he wants my opinion on the importance of connections and chemistry in a long-term, mutually beneficial arrangement, I need to include this component too.

Most importantly, since I do not believe Mr. A. ........ intended disrespect, how do I do this without pushing him away before I have had the chance to completely assess his suitability of meeting my needs.

Wow, the conundrum I faced. Not only was the wording of this message going to need to be a delicate reprimand, I would need to put cohesive words together that could express a random scattering of thoughts I had accumulated in the last 5 years. So is this even worth it? I tell you I asked myself this question more then a dozen times over the 9 hours I struggled with this response.

If you are asking yourself why I would spend 9 hours writing a letter, then you might understand how this became todays blog topic ~ because I asked myself that this evening after I hit the send button. The most simple answer is that he might be worth my time, long-term. That and his blatant question (chemistry/connection) made me think. Made me evaluate and put into words raw thoughts and feelings that I had accumulated over a lengthy period of time. Hmmmm... if this is his normal personality, then this is just one more reason to consider him.

After alot of writing, proofing and re-writing, I believe I found the right wording to convey the message and emotion I wanted. Tomorrow, oh wait it is tomorrow, we shall see what he has to say, or if he doesn't say anything at all.

Now while I have learned alot about myself today, in the transference of complex, convoluted thought into words I have realized, while I writing this blog entry that this ~ the selection of a new protector ~ is similiar to a job intereview and I am at different times both the interviewee and interviewer. But uniquely exhilerating is the fact that I make the final decision on who gets the position...
Perhaps a topic for a future blog.

Le Courtesan... legality exposed

The Courtesan has been around for thousands of years. A courtesan was originally a woman courtier. That is to say a woman who attended the court of a king. In ancient times a king married his queen because he was told to. Marriages between such high-ranking individuals were arranged by parents, often without there being any “love” between the parties concerned, many times without the parties ever having met. The primary purpose of these
‘marriages’ was two-fold: political alliances and the producing an heir or heirs to the throne. As there was often little contact between king and queen, and it was up to the king to find “amusement” elsewhere. But his rank in society demanded total discretion. Although a king could turn to the nearest maid to satisfy his carnal desires, this was not what he yearned for. Like any other man he yearned for the company of an intelligent, discrete, seductive and
unique type of woman. And being a man, the ‘hunt’ is everything. To gain such a woman, he would have to court her.

Courtesans of those era’s would split their time and attentions between a few select suitors, and would stand out (and be successful) due to their intelligence, beauty, style, sheer classiness, and, above all, their discretion. They were in the company of the most important and powerful men of the world. Outside of their courtesan life they would often run successful businesses. They didn’t need to spend every hour of every day in the company of their suitors. They did when they chose to, and with whom they chose, and for fun rather than need. They were one of “life’s little luxuries”,
and used the rewards from their select encounters to fund their own luxurious lifestyles. Nowadays, things haven’t changed too much – Except the favors of courtesans are no longer restricted to royalty. How lucky are we!
The Courtesan terminology has become very entwined with the that used in the sex-trade-industry. But there ARE major differences and those differences are what truly makes a relationship with a Courtesan unique, much more entailed and legal.

The premise of la Courtesan and what I provide as a service, is to create a mutually beneficial arrangement between like-minded parties. The politically correct term for courtesan these days is ‘sugar baby’ and the men are referred to as ‘sugar daddies.’ Personally I prefer the term, Courtesan or friends with benefits. <wink>

There is negotiation upfront between the parties involved. Although the media still equates it to prostitution, it isn’t because there is a chemistry involved in these relationships. It’s not a one-time exchange of money for sex. As a matter of fact, if you look to my website packages,   I require a first-time luncheon date. No strings. Just an initial meeting to ensure that the gentleman and I are compatible and that there is a chemistry for us to go further, build upon, and create a mutually beneficial relationship with. According to Allen Lichtenstein, a First Amendment attorney in Las Vegas, “…any relationship that is an ongoing one that’s not purely about sex but may have a sexual aspect to it, you can’t really classify as prostitution.” In a recent interview with the Huffington Post,  Lichenstein also states that “one could even consider certain marriages where there are unequal financial resources to not be overly dissimilar.”

In fact, my own opinion is that a relationship with a courtesan is healthier than most other relationships; going in to one and going forward the parties are brutally upfront. After a relationship forms, sex becomes part of the relationship just as it does with a rich husband or boyfriend who gives money to a wife or girlfriend. To borrow words from Mr. Sugar Daddy, Brandon Wade, in a recent interview he gave to the Wall Street Journal; “If you know going into a relationship that a person is going to use you and you are going to use them, then it’s healthier because there is a mutually agreed exchange of expectations. It’s part of a set of old-fashioned principles — opening doors for women and standing up to greet them — which men today lack.”

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