I received an email this week from a gentlemen (I will call him Mr. A. ... ) with whom I had been conversing recently. He is educated enough to know, understand, and appreciate the benefits a Courtesan would add to his life and realize that there is a distinct difference between a Courtesan and a high-end escort. He is in the market for an arrangement. Professional. Successful, of a decent height weight, nice eyes etcetera. By all standards he is quite a good catch! And as I find myself without a current protector and have been, how shall we say, at loose ends...
Sounds simple. Right? Wrong. Everyone comes to the table with different sets of expectations and beliefs of what a mutually beneficial arrangement / relationship is, and isn't. This week, this gentleman, was no different, except for it has had an interesting twist.
Mr. A. ... has never before had an arrangement, although, due to his busy career and international travel, he likes and appreciates the concept. He has an "open" or negotiable budget for the provision of such an arrangment and states that he more then has the ability to afford what he ultimately wants.
In the latest communique I received from him he indicated that an arrangement with him meant 3 to 4 dates per month of stress free fun times. He stresses that he is not just looking for intimacy at those dates but wants someone with whom he can share a good connection and someone who wants to enjoy the finer things of city life with him.
OHHH MY! This could be just what I am looking for. A real man who is looking for a real mutually beneficial arrangement. I start to get incredibly excited. This looks promising...
He stresses again the need for a good connection in the type of arrangement he will be willing to pursue. Having recently cum from an exquisite long term arrangement, and knowing exactly the style I am seeking I have to say I got extremely wet at the prospect of finding it after only 150+ emails!
And then I read further...
He goes on to say that the sexual aspect of the arrangement is important. Well that goes without saying. Seriously lets not be frigid here. How many relationships survive when there are intimacy issues? But then, he states he will reward generously... Hmmmm? I am a Courtesan NOT a prostitute.
Next he re-stresses the need for chemistry and connection between himself and the other party of an arrangement.
Is it me, or is he confused being new at this. I start to question and second guess my initial instincts of him as a potential suitor. But no, I read a little further. It appears he is just trying to ensure that the woman he becomes involved with is not just in this for the financial component but shares a chemistry with him. In a true, long term mutually beneficial arrangement between a man and his Courtesan, this is not an unreasonable aspiration but not highly likely at the initial stage. These things grow over time, just like any "normal" relationship.
The twist here today is he wishes to know my thoughts on the topic of shared chemistry, a good connection with a woman who does not place an importance on the financial aspect of a mutually beneficial arrangement...
Which brings me to the point of today's musing's. My thoughts
As I sat down to reply I decided it would be a straightforward email. I wrote, erased, re-wrote, erased and then stopped to think. The wording and structure of the communique was so back and forth between a man truly looking for a long term mutually beneficial arrangement and a man who was looking for a long term ultra-casual hook-up, in which he paid by encounter, my earlier confusion returned.
I opened up his profile. Re-read it. Did I miss anything? No. Exactly as I remembered it.
I opened up the first message he sent me. Read it. Re-read it. Again, exactly as I remembered.
I did the same with my first response. His response. And then the next emails exchanged.
No. my take on Mr. A. ... was correct. This isn't the all too common case where a potential benefactor said the pretty without any intention of following through; where he thought he wanted a Courtesan but in reality wanted a high-class escort. Mr. A. ....... was a man who wanted and would appreciate the skills of a Courtesan. The skills I have to offer the right man.
So how to explain to him MY thoughts on the topic(s) he raised in this last message. Because although I don't believe he meant to, he raised the topic of my, potential, financial security and made it contingent upon a level of feeling (connection, chemistry) prior to any time spent together.
How do I convey my feelings on being equated to a common prostitute or the insult I took at that. How to remind him of the distinct differences between an escort and the skills of a Courtesan.
Additionally, as he wants my opinion on the importance of connections and chemistry in a long-term, mutually beneficial arrangement, I need to include this component too.
Most importantly, since I do not believe Mr. A. ........ intended disrespect, how do I do this without pushing him away before I have had the chance to completely assess his suitability of meeting my needs.
Wow, the conundrum I faced. Not only was the wording of this message going to need to be a delicate reprimand, I would need to put cohesive words together that could express a random scattering of thoughts I had accumulated in the last 5 years. So is this even worth it? I tell you I asked myself this question more then a dozen times over the 9 hours I struggled with this response.
If you are asking yourself why I would spend 9 hours writing a letter, then you might understand how this became todays blog topic ~ because I asked myself that this evening after I hit the send button. The most simple answer is that he might be worth my time, long-term. That and his blatant question (chemistry/connection) made me think. Made me evaluate and put into words raw thoughts and feelings that I had accumulated over a lengthy period of time. Hmmmm... if this is his normal personality, then this is just one more reason to consider him.
After alot of writing, proofing and re-writing, I believe I found the right wording to convey the message and emotion I wanted. Tomorrow, oh wait it is tomorrow, we shall see what he has to say, or if he doesn't say anything at all.
Now while I have learned alot about myself today, in the transference of complex, convoluted thought into words I have realized, while I writing this blog entry that this ~ the selection of a new protector ~ is similiar to a job intereview and I am at different times both the interviewee and interviewer. But uniquely exhilerating is the fact that I make the final decision on who gets the position...
Perhaps a topic for a future blog.
Sounds simple. Right? Wrong. Everyone comes to the table with different sets of expectations and beliefs of what a mutually beneficial arrangement / relationship is, and isn't. This week, this gentleman, was no different, except for it has had an interesting twist.
Mr. A. ... has never before had an arrangement, although, due to his busy career and international travel, he likes and appreciates the concept. He has an "open" or negotiable budget for the provision of such an arrangment and states that he more then has the ability to afford what he ultimately wants.
In the latest communique I received from him he indicated that an arrangement with him meant 3 to 4 dates per month of stress free fun times. He stresses that he is not just looking for intimacy at those dates but wants someone with whom he can share a good connection and someone who wants to enjoy the finer things of city life with him.
OHHH MY! This could be just what I am looking for. A real man who is looking for a real mutually beneficial arrangement. I start to get incredibly excited. This looks promising...
He stresses again the need for a good connection in the type of arrangement he will be willing to pursue. Having recently cum from an exquisite long term arrangement, and knowing exactly the style I am seeking I have to say I got extremely wet at the prospect of finding it after only 150+ emails!
And then I read further...
He goes on to say that the sexual aspect of the arrangement is important. Well that goes without saying. Seriously lets not be frigid here. How many relationships survive when there are intimacy issues? But then, he states he will reward generously... Hmmmm? I am a Courtesan NOT a prostitute.
Next he re-stresses the need for chemistry and connection between himself and the other party of an arrangement.
Is it me, or is he confused being new at this. I start to question and second guess my initial instincts of him as a potential suitor. But no, I read a little further. It appears he is just trying to ensure that the woman he becomes involved with is not just in this for the financial component but shares a chemistry with him. In a true, long term mutually beneficial arrangement between a man and his Courtesan, this is not an unreasonable aspiration but not highly likely at the initial stage. These things grow over time, just like any "normal" relationship.
The twist here today is he wishes to know my thoughts on the topic of shared chemistry, a good connection with a woman who does not place an importance on the financial aspect of a mutually beneficial arrangement...
Which brings me to the point of today's musing's. My thoughts
As I sat down to reply I decided it would be a straightforward email. I wrote, erased, re-wrote, erased and then stopped to think. The wording and structure of the communique was so back and forth between a man truly looking for a long term mutually beneficial arrangement and a man who was looking for a long term ultra-casual hook-up, in which he paid by encounter, my earlier confusion returned.
I opened up his profile. Re-read it. Did I miss anything? No. Exactly as I remembered it.
I opened up the first message he sent me. Read it. Re-read it. Again, exactly as I remembered.
I did the same with my first response. His response. And then the next emails exchanged.
No. my take on Mr. A. ... was correct. This isn't the all too common case where a potential benefactor said the pretty without any intention of following through; where he thought he wanted a Courtesan but in reality wanted a high-class escort. Mr. A. ....... was a man who wanted and would appreciate the skills of a Courtesan. The skills I have to offer the right man.
So how to explain to him MY thoughts on the topic(s) he raised in this last message. Because although I don't believe he meant to, he raised the topic of my, potential, financial security and made it contingent upon a level of feeling (connection, chemistry) prior to any time spent together.
How do I convey my feelings on being equated to a common prostitute or the insult I took at that. How to remind him of the distinct differences between an escort and the skills of a Courtesan.
Additionally, as he wants my opinion on the importance of connections and chemistry in a long-term, mutually beneficial arrangement, I need to include this component too.
Most importantly, since I do not believe Mr. A. ........ intended disrespect, how do I do this without pushing him away before I have had the chance to completely assess his suitability of meeting my needs.
Wow, the conundrum I faced. Not only was the wording of this message going to need to be a delicate reprimand, I would need to put cohesive words together that could express a random scattering of thoughts I had accumulated in the last 5 years. So is this even worth it? I tell you I asked myself this question more then a dozen times over the 9 hours I struggled with this response.
If you are asking yourself why I would spend 9 hours writing a letter, then you might understand how this became todays blog topic ~ because I asked myself that this evening after I hit the send button. The most simple answer is that he might be worth my time, long-term. That and his blatant question (chemistry/connection) made me think. Made me evaluate and put into words raw thoughts and feelings that I had accumulated over a lengthy period of time. Hmmmm... if this is his normal personality, then this is just one more reason to consider him.
After alot of writing, proofing and re-writing, I believe I found the right wording to convey the message and emotion I wanted. Tomorrow, oh wait it is tomorrow, we shall see what he has to say, or if he doesn't say anything at all.
Now while I have learned alot about myself today, in the transference of complex, convoluted thought into words I have realized, while I writing this blog entry that this ~ the selection of a new protector ~ is similiar to a job intereview and I am at different times both the interviewee and interviewer. But uniquely exhilerating is the fact that I make the final decision on who gets the position...
Perhaps a topic for a future blog.
My sweet Veronica! I'm intrigued! I want to know more... but will there be more?
ReplyDeleteMy dearest O. There is always more... Somethings do not get written for public consumption though.
ReplyDeleteInteresting, I just looked at your profile. I am debating the option of a European lover, as mentioned in today's post.
Email me and share your thoughts on the US versus Europe if you do not mind.